Showing posts with label Bop.. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Bop.. Show all posts

Monday, July 19, 2010

Perfect Moment Monday: Summer Rain

I love Perfect Moment Monday, purely for the reason of there is so many of these moments in life and its wonderful to try and capture them.... 

Perfect Moment Monday is about noticing a perfect moment rather than creating one. Perfect moments can be momentous or ordinary or somewhere in between.
Once a week we engage in mindfulness about something that is right with our world. 

Thank You  Lavender Luz at Weebles Woblog for hosting this each week ...it really is something I look forward to

I know i have already posted about this once (See Summer Rain) this week but really it was a perfect moment for many reasons.

Bop has always been deathly afraid of storms, even when there is no storm she will predicted one when she sees a black cloud, and this to be honest can be very annoying at times ..... it's like living with Mystic Meg.

So when the storm hit on Friday we all held our breaths and waited for her to kick of ..... and waited and waited.

She made a few comments like.

"Don't you think we should close the windows"
And
"Is that lightening getting closer"

Im not sure why she is so scared .... It's not like we only get them every now and again they are pretty frequent through the summer.

Friday for some reason unknown to us was diffrent for her she remained fairly calm as the storm came in and once it was over us she didnt seem to flinch a muscle ........ and then

I surgessted we went out to play in the rain once the lightening and thunder was in the distance and she AGREED.

This is a first and I was shocked, I have surgessted this more than once, and never efore has she taken me up on my offer.

Bop Splashing in Puddles

there are more photos of this moment read Summer Rain





Sunday, July 18, 2010

Wanted .....!

I love walking to the mail box and finding a letter just for me ......
Not a letter like a bill, but a letter from a friend, it can be a friend from the other side of the pond or just a friend from the same State.

It doesn't mater where it comes from ..... what matters is, someone was thinking of me and send me a tiny bit of love.

It's something I don't do very ofton, write a letter.

My Mom on the other hand does all the time...... I received a letter from her the other day and Bip said

" Why doesn't Nanny just email you"

" Cause she doesn't have a computer"

He looked at me like I had two heads ......
I explained that she didnt grow up with computers and hence she doesn't really know how to use one and it got me thinking.

Do our kids know how to write a letter, do they know what snail mail even is......

So we got talking about writing leters to people ..... and Bip says like a penpal.
I asked him if he know what a penpal was, without going into a ful explanation here ... he does and now does Bop.

They now want pen pals......
of course they do ..... why wouldn't they .... after all I had one ....what kid wouldn't want one .... its fun finding out about where someone else lives, what their school is like what their hobbies are.

I remember that joy of getting a letter ..... and reading my letter three or four times and taking every little it in... then the visit to the post office to send my letter off..... buying my own stamp and popping it in the post box......Then there was the little parcels..... and buying nice writting paper.

Oh the memories.
So now the task of finding them both pen pals.......

Any takers?

Anyone out there who has children around the 6 to 10 age range who would like to bring some sort of non computer activity to their children's lives which would not only improve handwriting but teach their children the joys of giving and receiving, and just doing something fun.

If your interested or know of someone who might be leave me a comment ......

I would really appreciate it.



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Friday, July 16, 2010

Summer Rain

I love summer rain... mixed in with a tad of thunder and a spark of lightening ...makes for a perfect storm.... after the thunder and lightening Bip and Bop went out to play in the rain...... I followed

Bop Jumping in Puddles


Bop running in the Rain


Bip's Dirty Feet


They had so much fun.... and so did Mom ...... The we spotted the Rainbow .......



The sky was still fairly dark so I"m not sure how well you will see it
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The devil in your food

So by now many of you know that my two munchies have RAD, but what you may not know is that they also have ADHD.

This was diagnosed before the RAD was which in most case is the normal ... as both can display simple symptoms.

When it was diagnosed in Bip we had to make a decision weather to medicate or not, I am a firm believer ( and this is my belief and I don't push my belief on anyone nor do I judge anyone who doesn't think like I do) that this sort of medication is a personal choice for the child once they get to an age and understand what it is they are taking and why they are taking it.

I have many reasons for this belief which would take far to long to explain but if you really need to know I would be happy to explain myself.

Instead we went down the route of herbal medication which I have mentioned before, called Native Remedies.

This option is no more expensive then traditional medication for ADHD.

Well not long after this was diagnosed I was taking with a friend and she was telling me about a report she had read how food additives and food dyes have this huge effect on children's behavior, and more so with children with ADHD.

The main culprit being Red 40.

Red 40 is found in most foods that are the color red, orange, purple, pink, just think of your primary color chart and what you would use the red for when mixing other colors ... but don't be fooled they have been known to put it in other foods which have no trace of the color red.

While red 40 dye is approved by the FDA, many parents of children with ADHD have had to limit or remove the dye from their children's diets due to its effects on behavior.

Red 40 has been shown to be a trigger for hyperactive behavior in children who consume it regularly, and is also known to exacerbate the negative traits that are associated with ADHD.

Common symptoms that children who are sensitive to red 40 dye experience include but not limited to severe temper tantrums, fidgeting, aggression, inability to focus, and nervousness. The dye has also been linked to physical symptoms such as stomachaches and headaches.

All of the above both my children experienced.

We conducted a little experiment where we removed red 40 from their diet for 6 weeks, we saw a change fairly quickly ...... all of the above symptoms seem to be reduced after 5 days of with drawing any form of red 40 from their diet.

After six weeks we gave them both an ice pop a red juice ice pop.... I think with in an hour I had regretted this ..... but my point was proved.

Some people say that my kids are not servery RAD .... they don't throw fits they don't kick and scream they don't harm me they don't bite ... they are not RAD extreme ....

Well to those people let me tell you they use to, on a daily basic .... it was all part of everyday living at one point or another.

When red 40 was removed from their diet this did subside, they still throw fits they still kick and scream they still do harm to themselves and others but not to the extent they use to.

I just chose not to write about that sort of thing, and try to focus on the positive and the humour of it all... if I didn't I would do and go crazy, taking my kids with me.

I know when sticky fingers has found candy that Ive forgot to throw away which is positivity injected with red 40 ( did i forget to mention I'm not perfect and sometimes forget stuff).
I have known when they have eaten something away from the home without me, and chose not to say

" I can't eat that it has red 40 in it"

I don't blame them when they do this.... lets face it they are kids... and food can look so yummy even when you know its bad for you... we all do it when on a diet.

I can now speed read labels and the weekly shop doesn't take 4 hours ....... the kids can also speed read food ingredient.

Ive also educated them both and other members of the family on the effects of this evil ingredient, and now a days they refuse or will say why they cant have something to others....

There has been mistakes Ive made, some big some small, like cough medication, even shampoo and bubble bath.. if its red its more than likely got red 40 in it,(there are some foods etc etc that don't but they are far and few between) bubble bath and shampoo can seep into their pores and do the same damage,

Ive learnt the hard way on most things like this ....

My recent findings .... Tartrazine FD&C Yellow No.5 and Sunset Yellow FD&C Yellow No.6 and any other yellow with a number after it is pretty much going to have an effect on them to... not as bad but its still visible.

So you may or may not find this useful ....but either way I hope you have learnt something new ... and that you may even pass this along to educate someone else who may need to know this information.

Don't they look yummy







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Tuesday, July 13, 2010

No Such Word as Can't !

So it was all change today....
Equipped with my new parenting Bible .... away we went.

Well everything was fine until It was Mommy's time to get a shower, do my hair and so one....
Tuesdays, we have to leave the house early so I can get Bip to class by 9.30am.

I told them both to get their reading books and read for 20minutes... (I have this showing, getting dressed and not looking a mess down to a T now.... 20 minutes and I have to say I look half decent) and I did state without talking....
They jabber to see who can control the conversation the longest, and believe me it turns into a fight cause in their minds someone has to win... to win means to control...

I'm not in the shower two minutes before they start, I step out and ask them to stop and read....

This happens three times, each time I give a simple warning saying if they can't read quietly then there would be a consequence to them disobeying me.
I get on with my shower the whole time they jabber away.

By the way I had sat them outside the bathroom and the door was open ....
Just in case your wondering if I have super sonic hearing.

So out the shower ... dressed and ready to go.....

"Bip, Bop outside please"
They follow me out to the yard.... I ignore their questioning...

I tell them both I want two laps from the car to the post .... Bip just does it ... Bop refuses

" I can't do that"
Very calmly I tell her she can.... she replies "You can't make me".... I tell her she is right, and that I'm not going to make her .... that she has to do this for herself.... and if it is that she is to weak to do two laps of the drive way ( this is no great distances by the way) then maybe she needs to go to her bed and rest until she is strong enough to do the laps....

The laps get done.
This pretty much goes on once we are back from Bip doing class....

She did some alone time.......
she refused to eat lunch .....she took a nap...
she jabbered through out the day ..... and the whole time I was cool calm and collected....

I heard her say to Bip at one point... "Is mommy OK she hasn't shouted at us all day"

She even nearly missed dinner...

Cause as soon as Hubby arrived home from work she really kicked off...
Normal everyday action .... but this time she was told to do laps...
She refused...

What started out as two lapped ended up as five she refused so many times...

Spent 20 minutes of alone time .... and was told again if she was to weak to do them she needed to go and rest.....

Again the laps got done...

With a great big hug at the end of it all.


Monday, July 12, 2010

With Book in Hand

I started a new book today and already its geared me up for the battle ahead....

Does that sound right the battle ahead...maybe it is the right thing to say I'm not sure.... but to be honest it feels like a battle ....
Battle of wills ...
Theirs against me ...
Like rage against the machine...

What they don't know is...while they are asleep mommy is reading a book ... and when they get up in the morning mommy will be well equipped to face the day again with them....

I'm almost excited for them to pull their normal, and I'm going to say it...
It's a word Ive been saying all day in my head....
Shit...
Their normal shit ....
I even said shit to my mom on the phone today and I never say shit like that to my mom .....
So enough with that ... Back to the book and the kids...
I'm on the bit that talks about being prepared to deal with problems .... problems like,
lies, unclear speech, the Why answer, the I don't know answer, the interrupting, dumb questions, useless chatter, the not answering, the arguing, not accepting responsibility, the whining.
Now I know your thinking but isn't this normal behavior in kids ... and yes it is but where normal is concerned its normal and can be dealt with pretty quickly ...

With RAD kids it's controlling behavior, and if I cant deal with it Im allowing them more power and more control.

The book gives me options on how to deal with all of the above.

Its had me laughing ... to the point of tears running down my face, my husband thinks Ive gone crazy .....Maybe I have ....
Maybe me going crazy will help my kids heal from this ...
Maybe he needs to come with me ....
The book also goes on to talk about the acting out, the urine issues (which by the way started again today) and food issues...all of which I sure need help on ......
The Book I'm reading is


Nancy where ever you are ... Thank-you, you just made waking up tomorrow morning something to look forward to.
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Friday, July 9, 2010

Hurting Feet !

I can't blog my feet hurt far to much... Ye i know ... what does that have to do with blogging but really believe me ..it has a lot to do with it.... I cant think if my feet hurt. One good thing is Bop's new room is nearly done.... Hopefully by tomorrow her room will be finished and I can show you all
her new LOVE room.